What to Expect from me

I'm Mica May, I have over 15 years of experience working with children and families alongside social services.
I have studied and used child development, counselling, play therapy and parenting skills training to support children and their parents and carers, in birth families, foster families and adoptive families.
I have been a counsellor to survivors of various forms of abuse and their families.
I have worked in a Family Centre, where all the children had experience of abuse and neglect.
I have been a voluntary sector Play Therapist working with children with difficult behaviour since 1996.
I also established and ran a Parents Consultation Service, where I provided psychological explanations in no-nonsense language to parents struggling with their children's behaviour. This enabled them to create realistic plans of how to manage that behaviour more effectively.
I will use all this experience when I give you confidential information and support.

If you need information about how I work with families going through separation and divorce, please visit my other website at www.fixourfamily.co.uk or contact me by email or phone.

When you choose the

Effective Response Silver Service; breath work only, I will need a little background, and we will both sign a contract so that we are clear about what we're going to do.
One consultation may be all you require, but usually we will also have a follow up session to see how things are going, and iron out any remaining difficulties.

When you choose the

Effective Response Gold Service;

	I will back you 100% I will take you seriously.
	I will believe in you, and encourage you to do the same by nurturing your self-belief and your confidence so they grow strong.
	You will learn to gain control of yourself and your life to start responding effectively, not simply reacting to situations.
	You will become more effective by learning how to gain time to think, so your actions can become more focussed.
	You will create a realistic plan of focussed intentions to achieve your dreams and desires (and also a realistic strategy for you to cope with any difficult behaviours your children are struggling with, if that is necessary) and I will help you stick to your plan using more effective action.

Before we begin I will ask you to sign a contract, agreeing the terms I will work with you under, so we both know exactly where we stand and what we can expect of each other.
I will ask you to write some background about yourself and your family, any particular difficulties you're struggling with, some of your goals, what you like about yourself and some things you might like to change.
Next, I will talk to you for about an hour, usually on the phone.
At this point we will decide whether your focus is a difficulty in the family or whether you want to use this time for developing yourself and planning your future, of course you can use the time to do all these things.
We will establish your priorities.
I will be able to give you with some explanations for any difficult behaviours your child/ren may be struggling with, which often helps parents cope. At this point we may also start developing some strategies for you to begin responding more effectively to your children's behaviour.
This is when I will help you to get really clear about what you want. Your specific plans for the future and effective actions to make them reality will result from this conversation.
We will book in advance our appointed times to speak each week.
This is something I'm quite strict on, since if you're unable to commit to speaking regularly at our agreed times, coaching just won't work for you (if you have an extremely busy and irregular schedule we can book just one session ahead).
At the end of each session I will set you inter-session tasks to complete before we speak next (yes, that's homework in plain english), again, I will expect you to complete them.

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